One of the common ways men blow their chances with picking up women is through negative self talk.
- How do you see yourself?
- How do you speak to yourself?
- And what are you saying?
In other words due to a lack of self confidence many guys are creating barriers to success. This negative self talk causes you to be insecure and not confident. Women are not attracted to these qualities.
Instead you must be the man! You must tell yourself that you posses every quality that a good woman is looking for. Furthermore you don't need a woman that doesn't see this.
I can not stress this enough, by talking positively to yourself and about yourself it is a matter of time before you believe it. Just like every one around you already thinks how great of a person you are!
You just have to work or displaying these qualities to women. You are not uncommon. Very, very, very few men can actually attract women the way they want.
Even professional athletes, rich men, movie stars... these guys can still sleep with a lot of women, however they are often not women that you would want to sleep with once you got to know them.
If you need to, it can help to create a list of positive qualities about yourself. Recite it and compliment yourself.
When you look good for work or school and tell yourself (at least silently). By doing this you will not only believe the truth and have a more accurate view of yourself, but your confidence will grow too. And we have all heard women say "How attracted they were to a guy because he was confident."
This goes back to cave men days when women would choose men based on survival. The most confident guy is usually the strongest, fittest guy or in other words the best mate for the woman.